trapped

I often feel that I am trapped in a time warp of about 20 to 25 years ago. You see the way frumkite today, has evolved, seems to me to be without feeling or reason. What do I mean you ask? Well it is very simple. How many people do you know are really frum in all their ways and stick to the ways of their ancestors? but the defining line between them and the rest of the world is that the wife doesn’t cover her hair all the time.

Years ago it was not so “envogue” to do the hair thing yet people were very frum and respectful of tradition and religion. (I’m not debating the halachic origins at this time) However, I find that if you don’t cover your hair in most circles, you just don’t fit in with the “Frum Crowd” or the fashionably cool people.

Why are young couples today covering their hair as often as we see? Do they even know why they do it? And to what extent are they doing it? For example, go to Sesame Place on any summer day. You will see tons of young orthodox (generic term used loosely) couples there. But are they covering their hair in the park? If they do, is it the same way they would if they were home? I don’t think so. It’s either all or nothing who are you fooling? It is not enough to just put on a hat and let the rest hang out, is it? Oh and the hat or the bandana with the short short skirt. Cut the crap already.

Now let’s take this further. The same women who are sooooo strict on covering their hair for what ever reason mind you, come to shul bare legged. And in short skirts. Excuse me is that right? Is that allowed? You see the woman who doesn’t cover her hair knows not to come to shul without stockings and open toed shoes. So what does the lid cover represent? Is it that you are just part of the “In Crowd?”